Thirty Days and Thirty Letters

For the next 30 days I am going to try the following exploratory exercises. I cannot promise that I will stick to the exercises below or that I won't be posting other silly jokes, videos, or whatever else my demented mind can conjure. However, the prompts for these letters look interesting so off I go on a publicly displayed self-exploratory journey. Oh that sounds kinky already. Am I into public display? Am I into being displayed publicly while I explore myself? Hmm...wouldn't you want to know you kinky person in Malaysia who is reading my blog (hehe)? I do want to thank everyone who is reading my blog. My stats are getting higher by the day and I keep wondering what it is that I might be writing here that is of interest to strangers. But either way, I appreciate that you read my blog. I appreciate that something I am saying here is of interest to you whether in agreement or in disagreement. I appreciate that you engage with me.

Thirty days of kink came from this website. Thirty days of self-exploration in vanilla came from here.

THIRTY DAYS OF KINK

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Day 2: List your kinks.

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience?  If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had.  If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you?  Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?  If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves?  If so, what are they?

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life?  If so, what are they?

Day 20:  Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy?  How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

THIRTY DAYS OF SELF-EXPLORATION IN VANILLA

Day 01 – Letter 1: Your best friend

Day 02 – Letter 2: Your high school crush.

Day 03 – Letter 3: Your parents.

Day 04 – Letter 4: Your siblings.

Day 05 – Letter 5: Your dreams.

Day 06 – Letter 6: Your 8 year-old self.

Day 07 – Letter 7: Your ex.

Day 08 – Letter 8: Your favorite teacher.

Day 09 – Letter 9: Your 20 year-old self.

Day 10 – Letter 10: Someone you don’t talk to as much as you’d like to.

Day 11 – Letter 11: A deceased person you wish you could talk to.

Day 12 – Letter 12: The last waiter/waitress who served you well.

Day 13 – Letter 13: Someone you wish you could forgive.

Day 14 – Letter 14: Someone you drifted away from.

Day 15 – Letter 15: The person you miss the most.

Day 16 – Letter 16: Your body.

Day 17 – Letter 17: Someone from your childhood.

Day 18 – Letter 18: The person you wish you could be.

Day 19 – Letter 19: Someone that pesters your mind (Good or bad).

Day 20 – Letter 20: The one that broke your heart the hardest.

Day 21 – Letter 21: Someone you judged by their first impression.

Day 22 – Letter 22: Someone you want to give a second chance to.

Day 23 – Letter 23: The last person you kissed.

Day 24 – Letter 24: Your guardian angel.

Day 25 – Letter 25: The person you know that is going through the worst of times.

Day 26 – Letter 26: The last person you made a pinkie promise to.

Day 27 – Letter 27: The last cashier you interacted with.

Day 28 – Letter 28: Someone that changed your life.

Day 29 – Letter 29: The person you want to tell everything to, but are afraid to.

Day 30 – Letter 30: Your reflection in the mirror.